Michael Messeri: victim or perpetrator of his women? The case
Chi ha ucciso Sarah Scazzi? E' quello che ci chiediamo da quando è stato ritrovato il corpo di Saah nel pozzo. Lo zio? La figlia Sabrina? Non sappiamo chi mente e chi dice la verità. Due le ipotesi: nella prima se fosse stato lo zio Michele il movente sarebbe a scopo sessuale quindi l'avrebbe uccisa in un momento di rabbia perchè Sarah potrebbe averlo minacciato di dire tutto ai familiari riguardo le molestie subite da parte dello zio. Nella seconda ipotesi se fosse stata Sabrina, il movente sarebbe per motivi di gelosia. Una gelosia morbosa nei confronti della cugina che was blooming in all its beauty and then, inevitably attracted the affections and attention of all including the one for Ivan, the boy on which he had conveyed his obsessive passion.
If it were true, the second hypothesis is the victim of Michael Messeri Sabrina and maybe the wife and not executioner!
As the story said that it was he to strangle her niece because of the attention was focused on the young Sarah, but it could have accepted the blame for a good purpose, for yet another sacrifice to the family and especially for save her daughter Sabrina. Do not forget that between the death of Sarah and the discovery of his body, 43 days have elapsed and the family Messeri would have had ample time to study at a table and agree in detail on the events, as well as thoroughly cleaning the crime scene.
Misseri It is said that not even slept in bed with his wife and the three women of the house treated him badly, always turned to him with arrogance and he vented his frustration at work. He got up at 3 am and worked until late at night. It is the image of a united and happy family, he commanded less than zero. He suffered the oppression of all family members who might mouthing words to say, they could even force him to assume responsibility for the crime. Imagine for a moment Michael Messeri struggling with a mobile phone? Said to have hidden in the car for a few days, she has taken the simcard, games are even a few phone calls from the same .... Not a simple man would not come to that, for years I try to explain to my father how to use a cell phone. I gave up. Again I ask you the question: Victim or executioner?
"Sarah Scazzi" and the figure of the mother Concetta
The news that Sarah Scazzi , the fifteen-Avetrano before death and then abused and killed by death, bouncing on the magazine for some time. The media talks about it every day in the first news, the talk show form hypotheses, discuss the dynamics of the facts, the motive ... But nobody knows for sure what really happened, only Sarah knows the truth. Even his or her murderers murderess but unfortunately we do not know how they say never really done the facts, perhaps because the truth is not simply a murder giustificaherebbe "beast" of a 15-year-old.
Ever since news of the death of Sarah on August 26, I knew something happened that was really serious and that the girl had been killed for sexual purposes as was later confirmed. But I never thought that the atrocious crime would be completed within the walls of family members. The discovery of the cellular suspects went to his uncle, but the harshness and cruelty have gone far beyond the idea that I had done.
In all this history that I hope will be resolved, I remain impressed with the face of mother Concetta. A woman considered a "hard" because he did not shed tears, as if tears were the only manifestation of pain. How has paid cousin Sabrina is suspected of complicity in murder?
Concetta, his face pale and hollow who has spent sleepless nights full of doubt and pain, highlighted even more by his red hair. A woman who lived a life without love, was just 3 years away from his family home to be entrusted to another "mother" and then private affection of his true parents. A child who learned early to turn in on itself, to hold back his emotions without love immensely as he loved his children, perhaps without a lot of "fuss" or cuddling and tenderness. Do not you know, have not taught them to him and it is difficult for her outside. I heard that Sarah complained about this mother who wanted to become hard and take his aunt and uncle (maybe they said to remove the suspicions on them). No way! These are things that are said to be particularly children or adolescents. Even my little daughter told me that he did not want me as a mom and that he wished that his girlfriend Francesca. Then one day, after having been his friend all day, coming home and hugging me saying - you're better than Mom, I love you.
Concetta, a woman strong and fragile at the same time, a single woman without a husband, um near and far with his son. Now it was really only with his play in the heart, with her because, without knowing the truth. The only solace for mother Concetta, is confident in the continued existence of the person pertanto sa che Sarah non è morta e tornerà in vita attraverso la reincarnazione. Ti sono vicina mamma Concetta e sono convinta che lo sono anche tante altre mamma che comprendono il tuo grande dolore.
Ecco il dolore dell'ennesima donna tradita che mi scrive raccontandomi la sua storia. Ne ho ricevute diverse, anche belle storie a lieto fine, così mi è venuta voglia di " raccontarne " alcune sul mio blog, visto che è dedicato alle donne e of course with their consent. For obvious reasons not pronounce their real names and omit some events that could identify them.
"It 's all happened by chance. I noticed something different about my husband, the relationships were no longer those of earlier approaches, I kissing, caressing me in the most intimate parts, but in him there is no desire, no erection and truncates the report saying: I'm tired ... stress .... debt ... I can not concentrate.
I'm worried. Yes, there are problems, there are always been yet this had never happened ... who knows ....
Days pass and he is increasingly distracted, staring into nothingness, is not participating in the discussions, it avoids the company does not want to go out with me ... It 's always nervous and it hurt the children, grandchildren are a torment to him, can not wait to go away to stay with the PC. M'insospettisco and start to control it, I know that hiding something strange phone calls late at night, several "wrong number ....", secret code to the phone, and also to PCs that we have always shared (plus, in my name). It had never happened we'd always trusted each other and we had never hidden anything. I've always told everyone that the loyalty of my husband and I would put not one but both hands on the fire I was so sure of him. Unfortunately today I find myself with both hands burned.
When I called my husband to phone for half an hour I found it often occupied entire and he said I was not picked up the phone or on the phone with my boss. But verifying the random phone call I had noticed that his head had lasted only a minute while in the previous half hour, there was strangely empty, a sign that the call was been deleted. I ask him if by chance chat with someone and he denies and swears on the children and grandchildren who never chatted in his life and did not even know the mechanism. Then I decided to create me a nickname and I do comment on his post are that sooner or later he straconvinta contettarà me. Sooner rather than later, just two days after he invites me to Chatt. I answer with my heart in my throat within intimate, he knows not to talk to me and gives me his mobile number and woos me. He complains: - You know I have a jealous wife, with her no longer good , I feel like cuddling and tenderness as she always attacks me and I have hardened heart. Call me at the phone but if there mia moglie vicino a me dico che hai sbagliato numero. Sai.... mi controlla, ho il suo fiato sul collo....... L'ho tradita solo poche volte,....ho avuto solo tre storie importanti che sono durate alcuni mesi. Erano storie di luna, stelle, coccole e baci, ecc... Il sangue fa difficoltà a scorrere nelle mie vene. Allora i miei sospetti erano fondati! Quando rimanevo sola con i miei figli e attendevo che lui tornasse dagli impegni di lavoro ben retribuiti che lo portavano fuori città.....lui era con altre donne.....Per questo tornava a casa con le tasche vuote ed io rimboccandomi le maniche cercavo di fare qualcos'altro (oltre al mio lavoro stressante) per arrotondare e dare qualcosa in più ai miei figli. I approach my husband who is of stone and found that mice that was me and told me his carousing and that he complained to me.
controls are becoming more frequent and one day leggendoe history on your PC find some invocations of love, flowers and keep sentences given: AMOREEE BACK TO CHAT! WHY 'you did it! ! Was the only way to be able to HEAR Undreamt WITHOUT MY WIFE! WHY 'you deleted TUTTOO! and again: Do you know why SE unexpectedly quits ','S' WIFE IN MY ROOM ACCANTOE NOT WISH MY LOVE .... I miss .... WE ARE DYING ?????? COME IN CHAT??
Tremor shakes my body, are a plaster statue, the heart beats a thousand might burst out of my chest ... I say that is not true, not my husband, I would never do that. I cry I call my friend and tell her what happened, even you believe what you read, hugs me and comforts me, crying with me. When my husband comes in the evening on charges of malfeasance and rages, cries and says that I should not snoop through his stuff and can sue for invasion of privacy. I do not say love but you say, it is not at all what you read, does not concern me, are phrases that I copied from some book or something that I ... attacks: it is the best defense of the guilty. It 'also a friend of mine who is stunned in front of a man who until a few hours before a true friend and believed correct. They spend several days of bickering, accusations and cries, he swears that the story is over and with that it was all a game to have fun. They had fun and I? No, I do not. I cried and cried, I wanted to die. However, now there is the other has disappeared from his life he says and I close with my heart in a vise and try to remember to hang up my life split. In 2 months exactly and always randomly go on the computer waiting to get out. We must celebrate il compleanno di mio figlio a casa di mia figlia visto che la nipotina è appena tornata dall'ospedale per una febbre altissima. Lui ci raggiungerà più tardi, ha tanto da fare al pc. Lui intanto è fuori che fuma. Vedo una mail : -Amore che c'è, oggi ti sento strano.Tra poco tornerà a casa mio marito, ho tanta paura, forse sospetta qualcosa..... Ti amo tanto. Sissi
-Non ho nulla amore mio , è che devo andare a casa di mia figlia, non voglio andare, io voglio stare con te!
Rimango di pietra, mi si appanna la vista, il mio cuore non batte, frulla all'impazzata, credo stia scoppiando. Tremo e rispondo :-Che troia then you are the lover of my husband! But are not you ashamed?! Not from you I would never have expected!!
E 'virtual friend to whom I confided my fears and gave me good advice like: facts and leave without saying anything nice to your husband you'll see that recaptured. She who was the victim and said he had suffered the same fate I, who claimed to love her husband above all else and that instead she hated, she was the "other", the one that accorded with my husband before responding to my mail what was the PC for hours flirting with him, that he wanted to know him at all costs because it was a romantic poet. My God people with whom I had to do until now? Who is my husband?
I've always been betrayed and agree with the other conspired behind my back. I entrmbe that I put my hands on fire for the confidence that I had against my husband. I no longer love him, I no longer trust him, I can not appreciate it and I feel empty inside. All these years I spent with him were useless.
Now I find myself alone and humiliated, I see no light, I see happiness in my future. I tried many times to rebuild my life chopped and what I got? Lies and more lies .... lies ... !".......
The Importance of the father figure in the evolutionary development BABY (Third and last part)
father-son relationship
The absence of the father determines the child rather a difficulty in establishing affective relationships. The father contributes in several ways shaping the character of his daughter, first by providing an image of "difference" that helps the process of differentiation from the mother, which is crucial to be able to relate with people of the opposite sex. So when there are difficulties in the relationship father-daughter problem that can arise is relational and it will be with the men in her life that will catch the internalized image of his father. The passage of " oedipal phase is very delicate and it is precisely in this period that the father should strike a balance between distance and closeness. The first case is likely to create some difficulty and fear n el relationships with men, in the second case would prevent the excessive involvement of the relationship with other men live in a free, since the idealized image of the father will always a winner. It will be important, therefore, the appreciation of his daughter without conceding too much intimacy to avoid "fixation" on him, by directing the child's libido to the outside world. The little girl must always understand the difference between male and female and the father should help her daughter to " off "by him to help her gain independence and to facilitate future sexual and emotional relationships. It will therefore be essential that the presence of the mother figure for her daughter will be a reference model in order to avoid ; identify the father. This would cause a very difficult situation that would undermine its internal structure e la sua capacità di relazionarsi con l’altro sesso.
The Importance of the father figure in the evolutionary development BABY (Part three)
Rapporto padre-figlio
Molti uomini, anche se diventati adulti, risentono dell’assenza della figura paterna che è venuta loro a mancare durante l’ infanzia e l’ adolescenza, vivono sempre la triste sensazione di un grande vuoto difficile da colmare. L’assenza paterna ha loro negato la capacità di diventare individui indipendenti sottraendogli gli strumenti necessari per affrontare la vita e la realtà esterna. La presenza paterna nel figlio maschio offre un modello diverso da quello protettivo offerto dalla madre e solo la presa di coscienza di questi due modelli affettivi permette al bambino di crescere armonicamente.
Erich Fromm psicologo e sociologo tedesco, sosteneva che l’amore del padre è diverso da quello della madre; infatti, mentre lei è chiamata ad offrire un amore “incondizionato” che deve rassicurare il figlio dandogli la sensazione di essere accolto nella vita e dentro essa; il padre deve invece assicurare un amore “condizionato” che deve dare al figlio gli strumenti per conquistare ciò che vorrà nel mondo mettendo in atto comportamenti efficaci anche di fronte alle difficoltà che la vita preserva.
The male child must identify with the father figure and to do that, it will need to recognize in him the qualities and skills that will encourage to enter the world of men. Between father and son will be crucial in being together. E 'means' game' that the father contributes to the creation of a stable relationship with his son, encouraging exploration and the ability to address and solve problems. Through his model, the child learns to manage their emotions and impulses procrastinating, learn the rules and discipline, emotional stability and security gains.
The father is the basic pattern of their sexual identity. When a child lives or a big disappointment towards idealization of his father, may arise some real personality disorders if the father is manifested competitive and aggressive personality of the child blocks preventing harmonic structure. Faced with such an attitude the child is unable to integrate the violent emotions he feels in himself and lives a deep state of 'helplessness. The child will tend to compensate for the absence of the idealized father out of proportion. This will create an image that is not true may cause many problems. In conclusion the son where the father figure is absent, will be found more difficulty in constructing their identity and their self-assertion.
The Importance of the father figure in the evolutionary development BABY (Part three)
In the formation of the child's personality has always given prime importance to relationship between mother and son. In fact, the acceptance of the child in the womb and breast-feeding, automatically place the father in a supporting role. In modern psychology instead, the father figure plays a crucial role and just as important to the mother. When is the phase separation of the symbiosis with the mother, the child shifts its attention to the outside world represented first by his father who, with love and care, will help overcome this gap by supporting and complementing its growing sense of self and own identity. The child will learn without too much fear and insecurity to come out of his emotional world in two (himself - mom) to take one to three (self-mom-dad). As the child will realize to be part of an emotional system in three succeed in the best way to develop a mind and a harmonious good ability to relate.
Chi ha ucciso Sarah Scazzi? E' quello che ci chiediamo da quando è stato ritrovato il corpo di Saah nel pozzo. Lo zio? La figlia Sabrina? Non sappiamo chi mente e chi dice la verità. Due le ipotesi: nella prima se fosse stato lo zio Michele il movente sarebbe a scopo sessuale quindi l'avrebbe uccisa in un momento di rabbia perchè Sarah potrebbe averlo minacciato di dire tutto ai familiari riguardo le molestie subite da parte dello zio. Nella seconda ipotesi se fosse stata Sabrina, il movente sarebbe per motivi di gelosia. Una gelosia morbosa nei confronti della cugina che was blooming in all its beauty and then, inevitably attracted the affections and attention of all including the one for Ivan, the boy on which he had conveyed his obsessive passion. 
